The second pregnancy is a big step in your life as a parent as well as in the life of your first born. On one hand you are embarking on a familiar journey and have a sense of what you can expect, while on the other hand you have a new set of responsibilities to juggle as you make the transition and become a larger family.
Am I Missing Out on the Pregnancy?
It takes a lot of resources - both financial and time - to raise a child. With all those demands constantly pressing on your time you may feel like you're "missing out" on the new pregnancy. Many second-time parents fear that they will not bond as strongly with the new baby because so much of their time is taken up.
Will I Love One Child More Than The Other?
Many parents fear they will not love the new baby as much as their older child, or that the older child will feel replaced or unwanted. The older child is starting to become more independent and needs less hands-on time, but will they feel completely shut out when there is a new infant taking all of tired mom's energies?
The best way to proceed will of course depend on the temperament and age of your oldest child. You can explain to a five year old what is going on and involve them in planning and decorating for the new baby, but a two-year-old won't have the same level of comprehension - they can tell "something" is changing, but need to be carefully handled so they don't wake up one morning and lose their room, lose horseback-mommy, and have to learn all new routines.
Much like the first pregnancy, they key to a comfortable transition is beginning early. No one gets a right to complain - mother nature gives us nine months to get our things in order and prepare for the change in our lives. Second-time (and third-time and fourth-time) parents have an ace up their sleeve in that they already know what to expect when bringing home an infant.
Stop. Breathe in. Breathe out. Now go and enjoy this amazing time!
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